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On Facebook and Birthdays

Social networking sites have of course changed the way we communicate and share information online. They allow you to be connected to people in a state of perceived intimacy, regardless of whether time is spent with said people in the "real world." It's fascinating how the little details and scraps of insight provided through status updates and the Facebook news feed can make us feel more "in touch" with a person.

It struck me that Facebook has also, in part, changed birthdays. Yesterday was my birthday. I received 50+ individual birthday well-wishes this year, mostly through Facebook. Either I've become ridiculously popular and important all of a sudden, or Facebook has made it exceedingly simple to keep track of friends' birthdays and to respond accordingly, resulting in a huge increase in birthday well-wishers. I'm inclined to believe the latter.

Birthdays are public, now. No longer are they remembered and celebrated by a close, inner-circle of friends. They, like our daily, inane status updates, have become more important in a much larger social graph.

Fascinating (and Disconcerting) Excerpts from The Age Of Facebook

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The long awaited book about the first few years of Facebook is almost over. You can pre-order David Kirckpatrick’s The Facebook Effect: The Inside Story of the Company That Is Connecting the World for the Kindle here and in hardcover here.

I would summarize the best parts for you but, really, the whole thing is the best part. Kirkpatrick clearly got very deep access to Mark Zuckerberg and other Facebook execs, as well as relevant outsiders. He details Mark’s constant need to fend off venture capitalists and suitors, the raucous early days of the company (including a lawsuit by a very angry owner of a trashed house), and a whole lot more. Much of this has never been written about before.

Excerpt 1: The Early Days

In the first week of his sophomore year at Harvard, Mark Zuckerberg cobbled together an internet software program he called Course Match. The idea was to help students pick classes based on who else was taking them. If a cute girl sat next to you in Topology, you could look up next semester’s Differential Geometry course to see if she had enrolled in that as well. Hundreds of students immediately started using it.

His next project, in October, he called Facemash. Its purpose: figure out who was the hottest person on campus. He invited users to compare two different faces of the same sex and say which one was hotter. A journal he kept at the time, which for some reason he posted along with the software, suggests Zuckerberg got into this jag while upset about a girl. “______ is a bitch. I need to think of something to take my mind off her,” he wrote, adding, “I’m a little intoxicated, not gonna lie.” By the time the program launched, he had dropped the idea of also comparing students to farm animals. “Another Beck’s is in order,” Zuckerberg wrote as he continued his Facemash chronicles. By the time he returned to his room from a meeting the next day, his laptop was so bogged down with Facemash users that it was freezing up.

When he launched Facebook the following February (initially called thefacebook.com), it was a rudimentary site, but flirting on Facebook quickly became a sort of art form. One feature — the poke — made doing so absurdly easy. Poking was a particular fascination in those days, even among the supposedly sophisticated students of Harvard. What did a poke mean? Its indeterminate message was one of its appeals. Zuckerberg posted an insouciant answer on the site: “We thought it would be fun to make a feature that has no specific purpose… So mess around with it, because you’re not getting an explanation from us.”

This inside look at the early days of the world's largest and most connected social network, an excerpt from a new book by David Kirkpatrick, is both fascinating and frightening. The tales of amateurishness and immaturity, while a part of college-startup culture, are rather disconcerting when one remembers that this company has one of the largest and most valuable data-mines on a majority one of the most valuable consumer demographics.

I can only hope that Facebook's business face has gotten a bit more serious. They are, after all, playing with other peoples' fire.

Read the rest of the post over at Techcrunch.

"Twitter Is Creepy" - Older Generation

A few months ago, I attempted to introduce my mother to Twitter. She's certainly not a technophile, she only recently learned the ins and outs of web browsing. Previously she was limited to email. I never expected her to fully embrace the offering of the service, but I thought that she might enjoy following my most recent "tweets" on her iGoogle homepage. I assumed correctly; she loved it.

She was content only in her passive use of the service, however. She would not retire her regular one-sentence emails in favor of tweets, nor was she interested in the community and social networking aspects of Twitter.

About a week after her account was created, I noticed that she was no longer following me.When I asked her about it, she reported that my tweets were no longer visible on her homepage, either. In the course of the conversation, the word Twitter jumped her memory.

"Oh, yeah! I found them (Twitter) and told them to remove me and stop harassing me," she said. Turns out she had her account removed, because there were "strangers on the Internet" wanting to follow her Twitter account. She interpreted this almost as a form of harassment. Obviously she did not understand the concept of social networking services.

I explained to her in the best way I could what Twitter was, and why being followed is not a bad thing. The Internet people were not scary stalkers (probably). Her response?

"Why in the world would those people be interested in what I have to say, and why would I want to talk to them? This whole thing is shady and creepy."

There you have it. Twitter, and social networking in general, is creepy. I do think that there is a generational gap at play, here. Not only are there misunderstandings about social web technologies among the older generations, there is a genuine feeling of fear and unease. Granted, perhaps my mother is an ext reme case, but the overall unwillingness of older people to join in on these trends cannot be denied. Although they are comfortable consuming static content on the web, producing or interacting with that content is often a strange and foreign concept.